Sometimes Choosing Better Means Choosing Nothing
You don’t always have to pick something just because it’s available.
That includes:
a job that pays well but drains your spirit
a partner who looks good on paper but doesn’t see you
a friendship that’s long-standing but one-sided
a project that gets praise but no longer fits who you are
We live in a culture that rewards doing. Saying yes. Piling our plates.
But sometimes the highest form of self-love is restraint.
Sometimes better looks like:
staying single
leaving money on the table
walking away mid-conversation
not texting back
skipping the invite
It doesn’t mean you’re flaky.
It means you’re clear.
I used to think growth meant choosing the next best thing.
Now I know it often means choosing nothing—so something real can find you.
This isn't about scarcity.
It’s about making space.
So if you're in a season where nothing feels aligned…
Pause.
Sit with it.
Let the silence do what the noise never could.
Ask yourself:
What am I trying to fill that could be healed instead?
What am I afraid will happen if I wait?
Choosing nothing isn’t failure.
It’s faith.
And when you learn to choose from wholeness, not fear—
you stop settling for crumbs.
You start making room for the meal.
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Assimilation Not Required
A weekly letter about choosing yourself in a world that asks you not to.
